Gay but sex
Ever wanted to know the secrets to becoming a power bottom? Want to know how to stare after the bottoms in your life? Curious to give bottoming a experiment but not sure how to begin?
We can facilitate you become a superior bottom! Here are some quick bottoming tips and tricks from ACON’s peer-workshop Booty Basics.
1. Lube
The arse does not produce its own lubrication.
This means that lube is really, really important for any anal play. First, to interrupt damage to the internal lining of your arse. Second, to make bottoming (and topping!) more pleasurable. And third, to assist protect it from infections.
Remember to use water or silicon-based lubes, as oil-based lubes can damage condoms.
2. You
The second principle is YOU. This is the one that covers off all the mental and emotional aspects such as making sure you sense safe, making sure there is consent, that you feel comfortable, that you know your own bottoming limits and desires.
Remember, sex is best for everyone if all the people involved are motivated by trying to maximise everyone’s pleasure safely. You can’t be a good partner and you can’t encounter pleasure for yourself if you’re stressed or uncomfortable (bottom or not!).
3. R 
Sexual health for homosexual and bisexual men
Having unprotected penetrative sex is the most likely way to pass on a sexually transmitted infection (STI).
Using a condom helps shield against HIV and lowers the risk of getting many other STIs.
If you’re a man having sex with men (MSM), without condoms and with someone brand-new , you should have an STI and HIV assess every 3 months, otherwise, it should be at least once a year. This can be done at a sexual health clinic (SHC) or genitourinary medicine (GUM) clinic. This is important, as some STIs do not result in any symptoms.
Hepatitis A
Hepatitis A is a liver infection that's spread by a virus in poo.
Hepatitis A is uncommon in the UK but you can fetch it through sex, including oral-anal sex ("rimming") and giving oral sex after anal sex. MSM with multiple partners are particularly at risk. You can also get it through contaminated food and drink.
Symptoms of hepatitis A can arrive up to 8 weeks after sex and incorporate tiredness and feeling sick (nausea).
Hepatitis A is not usually life-threatening and most people make a entire recovery within a couple of months.
MSM can dodge getting hepatitis A by:
- washing hands after se
Life on the Bottom
I enjoyed a short-lived career on the bottom. My college boyfriend’s family lived in a duplex on Park Avenue, where we’d often slip away on weekends. Meals were rich and plentiful — foie gras, profiteroles, double magnums of Riesling, etc. — all of which I eagerly imbibed. Following one such decadent feast my freshman year, when we were still very much in the honeymoon phase of our first gay connection, Dan and I retired to his bedroom and got to work. For weeks we’d been easing into penetration with me on the bottom, but the pain had proven prohibitive. Also at engage was acute paranoia of involuntary defecation, something I’d been assured was a common, yet unwarranted, trouble of bottoms.
Presumably though, most surveyed hadn’t recently gorged on three helpings of fattened goose liver. It’s strenuous to look someone in the eye after shitting their childhood bed — let alone date them for seven more years afterward — but that’s exactly what happened. What didn’t happen — and hasn’t since, really — was me back on the bottom.
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Sexplain It: I Love Creature Gay, but I Despise Doing Anal
I'm Zachary Zane, a sex writer and ethical manwhore (a want way of saying I sleep with a lot of people, and I'm very, very open about it). Over the years, I've had my just share of sexual experiences, dating and sleeping with hundreds of people of all genders and orientations. In doing so, I've learned a thing or two about navigating issues in the bedroom (and a bunch of other places, TBH). I'm here to answer your most pressing sex questions with thorough, actionable advice that isn't just "communicate with your partner," because you know that already. Question me anything—literally, anything—and I will gladly Sexplain It.
To submit a question for a future column, load out this form.
Dear Sexplain It,
I’m gay but have zero desire to have anal sex with more men. I’ve topped and bottomed a rare times with a several different guys and hold never enjoyed it. Honestly, I can’t stop thinking about shit when doing anal. I’m terrified I’m going to accidentally poop on a guy, and when I top, I’m worried I’m going to get shat on. It takes me out of the moment. But I really like giving and receiving blowjobs. That r
.
Sexual health for homosexual and bisexual men
Having unprotected penetrative sex is the most likely way to pass on a sexually transmitted infection (STI).
Using a condom helps shield against HIV and lowers the risk of getting many other STIs.
If you’re a man having sex with men (MSM), without condoms and with someone brand-new , you should have an STI and HIV assess every 3 months, otherwise, it should be at least once a year. This can be done at a sexual health clinic (SHC) or genitourinary medicine (GUM) clinic. This is important, as some STIs do not result in any symptoms.
Hepatitis A
Hepatitis A is a liver infection that's spread by a virus in poo.
Hepatitis A is uncommon in the UK but you can fetch it through sex, including oral-anal sex ("rimming") and giving oral sex after anal sex. MSM with multiple partners are particularly at risk. You can also get it through contaminated food and drink.
Symptoms of hepatitis A can arrive up to 8 weeks after sex and incorporate tiredness and feeling sick (nausea).
Hepatitis A is not usually life-threatening and most people make a entire recovery within a couple of months.
MSM can dodge getting hepatitis A by:
- washing hands after se
Life on the Bottom
I enjoyed a short-lived career on the bottom. My college boyfriend’s family lived in a duplex on Park Avenue, where we’d often slip away on weekends. Meals were rich and plentiful — foie gras, profiteroles, double magnums of Riesling, etc. — all of which I eagerly imbibed. Following one such decadent feast my freshman year, when we were still very much in the honeymoon phase of our first gay connection, Dan and I retired to his bedroom and got to work. For weeks we’d been easing into penetration with me on the bottom, but the pain had proven prohibitive. Also at engage was acute paranoia of involuntary defecation, something I’d been assured was a common, yet unwarranted, trouble of bottoms.
Presumably though, most surveyed hadn’t recently gorged on three helpings of fattened goose liver. It’s strenuous to look someone in the eye after shitting their childhood bed — let alone date them for seven more years afterward — but that’s exactly what happened. What didn’t happen — and hasn’t since, really — was me back on the bottom.
• Read next: Bottoming Emojis, Explained
Maybe that’s why I’ve maintained an enviable respect for men and women who regularly obtain fucke
Sexplain It: I Love Creature Gay, but I Despise Doing Anal
I'm Zachary Zane, a sex writer and ethical manwhore (a want way of saying I sleep with a lot of people, and I'm very, very open about it). Over the years, I've had my just share of sexual experiences, dating and sleeping with hundreds of people of all genders and orientations. In doing so, I've learned a thing or two about navigating issues in the bedroom (and a bunch of other places, TBH). I'm here to answer your most pressing sex questions with thorough, actionable advice that isn't just "communicate with your partner," because you know that already. Question me anything—literally, anything—and I will gladly Sexplain It.
To submit a question for a future column, load out this form.
Dear Sexplain It,
I’m gay but have zero desire to have anal sex with more men. I’ve topped and bottomed a rare times with a several different guys and hold never enjoyed it. Honestly, I can’t stop thinking about shit when doing anal. I’m terrified I’m going to accidentally poop on a guy, and when I top, I’m worried I’m going to get shat on. It takes me out of the moment. But I really like giving and receiving blowjobs. That r
.