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Gay Men and Femininity: The Horror
Why are there so many hair stylists who are gay? Why are our homes so often featured in interior style magazines?
Why are we often the tastemakers of the fashion industry?
Why is there an entire décor resale website named “Previously Owned By A Gay Man”?
Is there a special homosexual “taste” gene yet to be discovered?
Alan Downs, in his popular book The Velvet Rage, argues that the reason that homosexual men are overrepresented as leaders in these industries is that we’ve had to become masters of hiding. As kids our true selves did not get validated, and so we learned to build the appearance of beauty as way to mask our “unbeautiful” selves from the world. “We’re experts in making things and people look good,” writes Downs.
It’s an interesting theory, and one that would be hard to demonstrate or disprove. I possess no idea if it’s true. However, I accomplish think The Velvet Rage is the most essential book we have on gay men’s development.
What I love about the guide are the first several chapters where he validates, with hard-hitting language, the challenges of growing up as a gay teen in a straight family. You will feel seen and heard in these chapters. They w
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I experienced homophobia within my first two weeks at UCLA — a surprise considering Chancellor Gene Block deemed UCLA no place for discrimination in his new undergraduate student welcome speech.
I was first belittled for the way I speak — the slang I use, the relative pitch of my voice, and my energetic inflections — by two guys who were talking to one of my roommates. As I joined the conversation, they picked up on my stereotypically feminine voice. They mimicked me, repeating what I said in high-pitched voices while laughing at each other. When my roommate called them out, they got defensive and denied any bigoted intentions.
Later that week, I saw one of the guys in the hallway outside of the floor’s lounge. As I passed by, he asked me how I was doing in a way that I felt was overly cordial considering our previous encounter. I ignored him, and as I turned the corner to my dorm, he said, “Yeah, fuck you!” while someone that was standing with him followed me around the corner and watched me enter my room.
After, I sat at my desk, shocked.
I saw him again while passing through the lounge, in the stairwell, at the other end of the
Is Being Gay Feminine?
What would you say if someone asks you to depict a male homosexual person (Gay)? What is the picture that came to your mind? okay.. cease there! Most of the characteristics you assumed and pictured so easily might be mere assumptions and generalizations.. in short, stereotypes. Surprised!? Unfortunately, it is true. Stereotypes rule our perception and thinking to a greater extent than we think. It can be something as uncomplicated as the statement- ‘pink is for girls and blue is for boys!’. Homosexual orientation is one of the most misconstrued concepts in today’s world. Numerous stereotypical notions preserve pouring in, be it for a male homosexuals (gay) or female homosexuals (lesbian). Let us hold a look at them and try to rethink and restructure our perception.
Most people tend to presume that gay men appreciate feminine things starting from clothes, makeup, jewellery, and all other preferences. however, it is not so. it is important to understand that being a gay does not imply one is necessarily a woman inside or outside. It just means that a male shares more comfortable emotional, romantic, or sexual relations with other males. There are some men who are ga
As the mainstream image of what a gay guy is continues to morph into more of a hero and less of a victim, we sustain to cast our most handsome, athletic and masculine men in the foremost roles of the lgbtq+ movement. As our rainbow fades to pastel, world now understands that lgbtq+ men can be just like the rest of mainstream society. Our group has a new cast of gay heroes who place our most chiseled, scruffy-jawlined faces forward for everyone to see. From TV stars like Wentworth Miller to athletes favor Jason Collins, the planet now knows that we can be strong and manly and fit right in with the recover of the boys. But there is a distinct kind of strength that has always existed within gay culture, although it might not come in the form of bulging muscles and bass voices.
Unlike his masculine counterpart, the effeminate gay man doesn't have the luxury of hiding behind a butch façade until he is comfortable with coming out of the closet. You know the type. He can learn the choreography to the latest pop song more quickly than you can learn the lyrics. In high academy he had to construct a beeline for his car the minute the bell rang so that he could avoid the worn-out name calli
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