Gay cruising signals

Cruising

This blog was written by our Sexual Health Outreach Worker, Chris Dunbar.

Sometimes, having sex in the secure confines of your bedroom just doesn’t cut it. You may be looking for somewhere new, inquiring thrill or adventure, or just not be capable to have the sex you want within your four walls. You may have heard someone speak about cruising, or possess been asked if you want to go, but what does it actually mean?

Let’s have a glance together at what it means, the laws, and general safety if you do decide to provide it a go.

Definition

Cruising is walking or driving about certain areas, called cruising grounds, looking for a sexual partner. These meetings are usually one-off, anonymous encounters.

Cottaging is a phrase used to describe anonymous sex meetings in general toilets.

Where do the terms come from?

Cruising: The synonyms originated as a lgbtq+ slang term, sometime in the early 1960s, as a way for people who knew its definition to arrange sexual meetings. It was a way to plan sexual encounters without attracting the attention of people who may wish to report them to the authorities, or inflict harm. The designation is used many countries including the UK, the U

CruisingProtocols

CapnDan writes: what protocol you use, depends on location, that is, which CruisingAreas.

In a str8 bar

the standard technique is to buy the dude beer, chat him up, howl at his jokes, and mention that you own something at home - dope or str8 porn is the usual.

In a washroom

Give the guy some idea that you're wanking. Can be anything from casting a shadow of your wanking hand to allowing them to peep at your crotch thru a hole or the crack in the door.
There is an old "tap foot" protocol for t-room stall cruising, but it's not much used any more. You tap, the guy in the stall next to you taps, you tap twice, he answers twice.
I have heard of people using a "three flushes" protocol but never seen it in use.

In the car with a hitch hiker

*Typically, if a guy picks you up hitch hiking at night and is chatty he wants something. If you are hitchhiking at night you probably wish something more than a lift. Let the guy lead the discussion a little, gauge friendliness. If you feel comfortable, utter you wish there was a party to proceed to or you really dont feel like going home yet and view what happens.

On the street

The classic is to watch back at your tar

How did toilet cruising work?
February 17, 2015 3:19 PM Subscribe

I was reading an lgbtq+ travel guide from 1980, and it reminded me that I've never understood the mechanics of the toilet pick-up. One of the notable features of the guide is that among all the bars and bathhouses listed, many locations also suggest cruising toilets. This seems soinherently sketchy. How would you know when it was safe to signal to somebody? Don't you sprint the constant risk of an embarrassing and perilous confrontation? Do you actually have sex in the bathroom, or is a rendezvous point? And given that these locations are so well established that they appear in a travel guide, wouldn't they be easy pickings for the police?

Any info or stories about etiquette and risk mitigation would be of interest.

Bonus points if you can explain how toilet cruising worked in an international context. After a strong warning about how dangerous cruising is in the Middle East, for example, the guide lists toilets in Syria and Kuwait. There are similar listings throughout the society. While cruising in the U.S. sounds risky, it seems like only those with a death aspire would cruise toilets as a tou gay cruising signals

Secret Signals: How Some Men Cruise for Sex

Aug. 28, 2007  -- While many Americans may only be vaguely familiar with the idea of "cruising," there is a classified world of sex between men that exists in public places across the country.

The police officer who arrested Sen. Larry Craig, R-Idaho, in a men's restroom at the Minneapolis airport for allegedly looking to engage in lgbtq+ sex wrote in his June report that he "recognized a signal used by persons wishing to engage in lewd conduct."

Craig tapped his foot up and down and swiped his hand underneath the bathroom stall in which the undercover cop was sitting, according to the police report.

Those actions led to Craig's arrest by Detective Dave Karsnia and the senator's guilty plea to a disorderly actions charge. Craig told reporters today that he did nothing inappropriate and said his guilty plea was a mistake.

Public places appreciate men's restrooms, in airports and train stations, truck stops, university libraries and parks, have long been places where gay and bisexual men, particularly those in the closet, congregate in order to encounter for anonymous sex.

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