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Q: I just attended the nauseating wedding of my 30-year-old niece to her boyfriend of several years. Both of them seem as gay as possible but they are diehard religious fanatics. I can list 50 signs these two are male lover and once you signal it out to someone who isn’t a Bible thumper they go, “Yeah, that makes so much sense.” The bride’s father, who was also the minister, praised them for not moving in together before the wedding—another signal. I personally find hetero abstinence until age 30 to be highly suspicious. In fact, refraining from heterosexual intercourse until that age only seems logical if someone is same-sex attracted or asexual. Our extended families are all religious blowhards and we’re the only queer-friendly outlet in the family. I desire badly to let the newlyweds know it’s OK to question the complexities of sexuality and that we’re here to encourage them. I fear they’ll live for decades in awkwardness because my niece’s minister father is beyond judgmental and insists adore (and marriage) can only exist between one Gentleman and one WOMAN. Is there any tactful way to ask someone if they’re gay? Or to at least offer help if they are closeted? How do we allow them know our small corne
Oral sex and the uncertainty of HIV transmission
Key points
- HIV cannot be sexually transmitted by an HIV-positive partner with a fully suppressed viral load.
- The uncertainty of getting HIV through oral sex is shallow, but not non-existent, when a person with HIV does not have fully suppressed viral load.
- Most case reports concern receptive fellatio (‘doing it’) rather than insertive fellatio or cunnilingus.
The PARTNER 1 and Match 2 studies showed that HIV is not transmitted through condomless vaginal or anal intercourse when a person with HIV is taking antiretroviral treatment and has a fully suppressed viral load (Rodger).
As the risk of transmission through oral sex is estimated to be much drop than for vaginal and anal intercourse in the absence of antiretroviral therapy, it is implausible that the risk of transmission through oral sex is not affected in the same way as other sexual transmission risks when effective treatment suppresses viral load.
When HIV is not fully supressed, the chance of HIV transmission through the mouth is certainly smaller than through vaginal or anal intercourse. If undamaged, the tissues of the mouth and throat are thought to be less susceptible to
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Sexual health for queer and bisexual men
Having unprotected penetrative sex is the most likely way to pass on a sexually transmitted infection (STI).
Using a condom helps safeguard against HIV and lowers the risk of getting many other STIs.
If you’re a man having sex with men (MSM), without condoms and with someone fresh, you should have an STI and HIV check every 3 months, otherwise, it should be at least once a year. This can be done at a sexual health clinic (SHC) or genitourinary medicine (GUM) clinic. This is important, as some STIs do not lead to any symptoms.
Hepatitis A
Hepatitis A is a liver infection that's spread by a virus in poo.
Hepatitis A is uncommon in the UK but you can acquire it through sex, including oral-anal sex ("rimming") and giving oral sex after anal sex. MSM with multiple partners are particularly at risk. You can also get it through contaminated food and drink.
Symptoms of hepatitis A can show up to 8 weeks after sex and involve tiredness and feeling sick (nausea).
Hepatitis A is not usually life-threatening and most people make a occupied recovery within a couple of months.
MSM can evade getting hepatitis A by:
- washing hands after se
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