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Those gay teens in your church? I was one of them.

I didn’t really know it yet—I didn’t identify as gay—but I was attracted to women. I felt an increasing intrigue towards them, while boys were... kind of gross. I had five brothers (and seven sisters), so I grew up fighting with the boys, playing GI Joes with the boys, longing to be included with the boys. 

I dated guys a bit. One of my boyfriends seemed like the male version of me: he was the other youth group superstar. When we secretly caught each other’s eye in the prayer circle, we silently agreed dating the other superstar made sense. That was an interesting not many months. 

Nobody suspected me. I hardly suspected myself. Whenever I felt the illustrate towards women, I squashed it down. That’s a sin. Not just a sin, but the worst-worst sin, I believed. 

When I participate my testimony, this is usually the part where I fast-forward to my secret same-sex relationship in college. I was attending a Christian university, facilitating small groups, and foremost worship at the matching church where my dad was a pastor. I wished I could say someone, but I didn’t know who I could trust. Every time I heard church people say, “Those gay people,” t

Let’s get right to it: parenting is difficult. It’s not like keeping a plant alive or attentive for a puppy. Raising kids is beautiful. And painful. Fraught with delight and worry and uncertainty.

In my work with parents, I’ve met many with a teen who just came out. These parents love their kids. And these parents, and their kids, are in pain. You may be the parent of a teen or young adult who recently shared with you that they experience homosexual attraction, that they’re lgbtq+ or lesbian or pansexual. And you’re trying to figure out how to do the best you can with what you’ve got.

But it’s tough.

Sound familiar?

The parents I’ve met probably have similar stories to a lot of you.

  • Before your teen shared about their attractions, you probably didn’t have a chance to teach your minor to think carefully about their God-honoring sexual stewardship for all people.
  • You didn’t read blog posts appreciate this one, so you didn’t know how to talk specifically about LGBT+ topics in compassionate and theologically accurate ways with your kid throughout their childhood.
  • Over the decade before your teen shared, you and your church were probably

    Parent of Gay Teens

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    <p>I havent posted in a long time.</p>

    <p>I hold had suspicions for a long time that my son was gay, but I kept them to myself. I recently discovered that my son is gay in a journal entry that he wrote for his english class.</p>

    <p>He thinks that we are clueless to his sexuality. I am not as I said I had my suspicions. My husband on the other hand is probably clueless. In his writings, he has not told anyone. He keeps this bottled up inside him.</p>

    <p>In his writing, he doesnt want to tell us 1. Because its not our business<br>
    2. That we will not understand and wont support him.</p>

    <p>I have a sister that is a lesbian, and he knows this. I was thinking of taking my son out and approach him on the subject - just me and him. I was also thinking of going to a counselor and discuss this with them before I approach him on the subject.</p>

    <p>I do not crave my son to be unhappy. I want him to know that I stand by him 100 percent and will assist him 100 percent. I want him to comprehend that I love him for him and not his sexuality.</p>

    <p>Any

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    The coming out process for a GLBT (gay, woman loving woman, bisexual, transgender) adolescent can be a challenging moment for not only the teenager, but also their family and friends. It is a time of high emotions that can run the gamut from confusion, shock, disbelief, rejection, and anger, to acceptance, calmness, understanding, and relate to . It is important at this potentially fragile hour for parents and teens to be kind to each other and build room for this recent information and identity to be processed.

    Adolescence is a time when feelings and thoughts of sexuality develop intense and confusing. For many gay teens, feeling different from their friends creates a pressure to fit in and retain their sexual orientation private. They can fear rejection, discrimination and even abuse. It is important to create a space of safety and acceptance for them to better know their feelings.

    The process of coming out usually starts with the sharing of feelings with a shut friend or family member. Although coming out is a normal step in the development of a gay or lesbian adolescent, many different issues can come to the forefront for your child including:

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